The Jewish Life Cycle - Death and mourning: End of Life Questions

 

 

 

 

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CHAPTER EIGHT:Closing The Circle In Jewish Life Cycle: Rituals, Culture And Us

Background

3. People

In his great work on the Prophets, Abraham Joshua Heschel suggested that one of the features distinguishing the Prophets as great religious thinkers from many of the world’s other great philosophers, in different cultural systems, was the fact that other thinkers presented their gods as concerned with lofty philosophical thoughts. The G-d of the Jewish Prophets, said Heschel, was concerned with something totally different: people; Heschel read the Judaism of the Prophets as centred on people and the way they lived their lives. He was right: the Prophets, with all their religious beliefs and passion for G-d, were ultimately concerned with this world and with the people in this world. G-d was ever-present in the thoughts of the Prophets, but at the centre of the Prophet’s world were people and their behaviour.

The same message of concern for people sits at the hub of the Jewish life cycle. The most important message about the Jewish cultural system, as expressed in the life cycle patterns examined here, is that it is meant for real people. It is essentially a very human system, reflecting a way of for real human beings - with their limitations and their faults, their bodily passions and their authentic emotional states.

Evidence of this can be found in the first stage of life, and again in the last.

The first topic explored was attitudes towards children and childbearing in the Jewish family, stressing the fact that the family is the essential unit at the heart of the Jewish culture.

In the Jewish family saga of Bereishit, one of the central themes in the early generations is the importance of children and the tragedy of childlessness. It might therefore be expected that the children who appear would be presented as paragons of virtue, justifying the faith of their parents and the tears of their mothers. However, in place of that, there is some very questionable behaviour on the part of some of the longed-for offspring. The scenario presented is one of intrigue and tension, as siblings quarrel with each other (e.g. Jacob) and with the world around them (e.g. the Prophet Samson): a world of real people, with all of their limitations.

The message, therefore, is not that children are to be desired because they are perfect, but, rather, that children are to be desired despite their imperfections.

The Jewish models are invariably flawed, but they are flawed in their humanity. In the Jewish model of a human the multi-dimensionality of their humanity is a prominent feature. People are not perfect, not because they are flawed, but because they are real and the life cycle takes that into account.

For example, the last chapter clearly shows how grief and anger are perceived not only as legitimate in response to death, but more than that: the system even steps aside to embrace these characteristics and accommodate them, this being the reason for the stage of aninut. The entire essence and framework of Judaism's ritual reaction to death recognises and adapts to the harsh emotional and psychological reality of the state of the mourner.

Thus, rather than viewing the expression of real emotion as a negative weakness, Judaism recognises it as authentic and integrates it into the life cycle rituals, gently moving the individual forwards through a structured framework, towards the wider perspective.

 

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